Breaking the News

Breaking the pregnancy news before the first trimester is often considered taboo.  In the Chinese culture, it is believed that if we talk about the little one, s/he will be 小氣, and it will result in bad consequences.  In other words, a miscarriage could happen.

Although I'm not superstitious, I do believe things could go awry during the first trimester, with or without reason.  To keep it quiet was just to prevent disappointment from happening.  However, we decided to let some people know:

1. My parents. 
2. My in-laws, B's parents. 
3. People at work: boss and project manager.

My Parents

I already told my mom with my questionable pee stick #1.  If she knows, my dad will know.  A girl telling her mom first is quite typical I guess.  When the blood test confirmed "my situation", I pretty much just confirmed it with my mom, ending the guessing game.  

My In-Laws, B's parents

If my parents know, it's only fair we share the news with B's parents.  We told them after the blood test confirmation.  At first, they thought the news we were going to share was B getting a promotion.  After saying no, they guessed I was pregnant.  And like all soon-to-be-grandparents, they were ecstatic. I then got the "you need to be careful and eat healthily" talk, while B got the "you have to watch out for your wife more" talk.  It's all good.

My Boss and Project Manager

I believe it's very important to have a great relationship with the people at work, especially the boss and project manager.  That relationship could only be built on by trust and reliability.  I foresaw that I might not be a very reliable worker for the next while, likely due to morning sickness, and possibly having to turn down some work due to my "situation".  Therefore, I felt it was only right to give them a heads up.

So late Friday afternoon when more than half the office had emptied out, I went into my boss' and project manager's offices and broke the news.  Both were shocked and happy for me.  Neither of them saw it coming.  They often ask when I plan to grow the family, mostly for them to plan ahead with work distribution, but I often say not for a while, I don't think.  Oops.  Sorry guys, it came sooner than expected.

So yes, the news is out to some important people.  I think I will share the news with the friends when things have settled and the whole situation is stabled.